Theory of Diminishing Returns
What is a relationship? Any relationship is a medium by which two humans exchange virtues. These virtues are abstract events that triggers emotional response. Now, lets back up a bit. What are different kind of virtues, which these so called medium of relationship facilitates? Love, Respect, Care, Hate, Admire, Ignore, Subtlety etc are different virtues all present in a relationship. I will try to be a bit technical. In each relationship, there is a presence of almost all virtues possible, it is the distribution of these virtues which varies giving rise to various relationships. Examples are profound around us, the relationship between, mother and son contains far more love, care than diplomacy; a relationship of friendship is more of care, respect, admire than hate and so on and on. I have listed only few of these virtues. Equilibrium values in a relationship are the correct amount of virtues present in that relationship. Relationships require two people to work, it is the manner in which the flow of virtue takes place that decides who is playing what role in the relationship; the relationship of teacher-student is that way because flow of knowledge is mostly uni-directional; the relation between a lover and his/her beloved is similarly because the lover loves someone. However, these often resonate, i.e. the lover can be the beloved of the beloved, or the teacher can learn from the student and thus reverse the relationship.
That being said, we can now dwell upon the main topic of "Theory of Diminishing Returns". Most of relationships, which are not of blood, depend on exchange of something. We subconsciously crave something the other person has to offer, even the relationship of friendship depends on the fact that there is mutual sense of care and respect among the duo. Now, the most common form of problem in these relationships is that they lapse, and they do not lapse all of a sudden, they sound a lot of alarms and once beyond the point of no return, they just cease to exist. Have you ever felt distant to someone, who is physically very close. It is a way to know that your relationship is under the type of stress I am talking about. The things we crave or look for in a relationship come at the cost of whatever you have to offer on your end. The downhill we usually see is when one of the two ceases to reciprocate as much as the equilibrium amount of virtue of that relationship is supposed to have. As a result, the other person tries to reduce the effort he puts in to the relationship and thus, there is change in the distribution of virtue in the relationship and it changes forms. Take the relationship of friendship which has high virtue values of love and respect and now assume somehow you lose the love and it goes into negative axis making it hatred, what does hatred and respect give rise to? Enmity. This is exactly what you need to think about. Theory of Diminishing Returns has spoiled many relationships and will probably spoil many more.
Equilibrium is the key to any healthy relationship. Escalating any virtue beyond its required value may lead to a pseudo relationship, as well as decimating any virtue beyond a certain limit may kill it. What is important is making amends when the time is right; as I once rightfully came across, you can only effect your destiny if you act at the right time. There are many issues people face in making amends, which is mostly a matter of priority between their ego and the value they hold for the relationship. Some might argue that "Theory of Diminishing Returns" is bad, but I stand to argue that it is nature's own way to ward off toxic relationships from your life, if someone cant prioritize you over their ego is not it for your own good to stay away from them. However, this does not mean you are not to make amends, of course you can make amends when the time is right, but once the death point making amends wont help. The analogy is similar to trying to rejuvenate a dead body.
To conclude, no relationship is having a constant value of all virtues with time. Change is the unchangeable law of nature. So, when these values change make sure you introspect and detect them change, and most importantly make amends wherever you can.
That being said, we can now dwell upon the main topic of "Theory of Diminishing Returns". Most of relationships, which are not of blood, depend on exchange of something. We subconsciously crave something the other person has to offer, even the relationship of friendship depends on the fact that there is mutual sense of care and respect among the duo. Now, the most common form of problem in these relationships is that they lapse, and they do not lapse all of a sudden, they sound a lot of alarms and once beyond the point of no return, they just cease to exist. Have you ever felt distant to someone, who is physically very close. It is a way to know that your relationship is under the type of stress I am talking about. The things we crave or look for in a relationship come at the cost of whatever you have to offer on your end. The downhill we usually see is when one of the two ceases to reciprocate as much as the equilibrium amount of virtue of that relationship is supposed to have. As a result, the other person tries to reduce the effort he puts in to the relationship and thus, there is change in the distribution of virtue in the relationship and it changes forms. Take the relationship of friendship which has high virtue values of love and respect and now assume somehow you lose the love and it goes into negative axis making it hatred, what does hatred and respect give rise to? Enmity. This is exactly what you need to think about. Theory of Diminishing Returns has spoiled many relationships and will probably spoil many more.
Equilibrium is the key to any healthy relationship. Escalating any virtue beyond its required value may lead to a pseudo relationship, as well as decimating any virtue beyond a certain limit may kill it. What is important is making amends when the time is right; as I once rightfully came across, you can only effect your destiny if you act at the right time. There are many issues people face in making amends, which is mostly a matter of priority between their ego and the value they hold for the relationship. Some might argue that "Theory of Diminishing Returns" is bad, but I stand to argue that it is nature's own way to ward off toxic relationships from your life, if someone cant prioritize you over their ego is not it for your own good to stay away from them. However, this does not mean you are not to make amends, of course you can make amends when the time is right, but once the death point making amends wont help. The analogy is similar to trying to rejuvenate a dead body.
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To conclude, no relationship is having a constant value of all virtues with time. Change is the unchangeable law of nature. So, when these values change make sure you introspect and detect them change, and most importantly make amends wherever you can.
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